There's a phrase I've been finding myself saying a lot lately, which is, "wow, how life changes in a year". I've been saying it to my friends, family and to myself. In fact I've said this phrase throughout my life. I have this habit of thinking where my life was a year previous and find myself in disbelief how much is different.
Where were you this time last year in your life? Who was there who isn't there anymore? Where you in love, depressed, happy? How are things different now? I bet sometimes when you think it over you will realize how much those 525,600 minutes count. The lessons you've learned, the things you thought you would never get through and now barely remember. The things that still hurt...
I'm at a very different place than where I was last year, I never thought I'd be where I am in my life, feeling the way I feel about certain people, with some new people, and without others I never thought I'd lose. Part of me didnt even know if I would make it this far. But alas, I have and I have learned a few things...
People come, people go - Friendships, lovers, family members... and it's okay. Those people you thought would always be there are no longer. Sometimes we can't help it, death takes someone because it was their time and you just have to hold on to the memories you have with them and learn from them. What about those who are no longer around but still living, is it better without them and if not what are you waiting for to go and embrace them?
You can't live in a memory - Sometimes we hold on to something for so long because of a beautiful memory. Yes, you always have that thought but you can't live there. If you do the opportunity to make other memories slips away with every passing moment.
Every relationship is a risk - By relationship I'm not even necessarily speaking of romantic ones, anytime you enter into a relationship with another person you are opening yourself up to hurt. Its a scary thought but think of the things you will miss out on if you stay closed off because of the possibility of getting hurt. Are there plenty of people who will hurt us? Yes. However some people are worth the risk, some people that hurt you are worth hurting for, sticking around and working through. Others, maybe not but then take that hurt, let it pass and realize your better for the experience and learned from it.
You always have a choice - You chose who you let in, whom you keep in and who no longer fits in your life.
It's okay to cry and laugh - They are your emotions and you are entitled to them.
Not everyone is going to understand you - Only you understand yourself fully, its who you decide to let in that matters, will they always understand you? No, but those that are willing may still give you unconditional love.
Nothing is always someone else's fault, or your own - like it or not every action has a reaction, its about forgiveness and being able to move forward.
Think before you act and react - things may not always be what they seem and sometimes you may say something that hurts someone so deep you can never take it back.
Smile.
So when your upset and wondering what you have done in your life or in such an rut you feel you may never get out of it just ask yourself...where was I 525,600 minutes ago? Who gave me the most wonderful memories? How can I embrace them? and how can I move forward?...and don't forget to smile.
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