How do you know...

...when it's time to let someone in your life go? Every culture, civilization, has created works around heartache, loss... why? because it's a feeling so powerful, so consuming that sometimes the only thing one can do is channel it into creating something else just to release it from themselves. How do we know when its time to walk away from a person or situation?

The answer isnt as easy as saying "because you aren't happy" when we create a bond with another person we give them part of ourselves, sometimes we hold on to memories, good times, love. How do we focus on the present and the reality of where the relationship stands, that it's crumbled to ruins? How does one to know whether to pick up the pieces and try to reassemble whats left or walk away and accept what once was wonderful is now lost to the dust?

The reality is that two people have to be into saving the relationship, friendship, team, the same amount. One can not be in more than the other, it simply won't work. You must believe they are worth it, why are you holding on? Do you truly see a future, or do you see a past you admire and just want to hold on to? Has the way you've treated this person changed? Have you started to give up on them, degrade them?

I think friendships, and relationships should add to our happiness, nothing else. I'm coming to realize if they don't maybe they shouldn't be around anymore. You should never have to lie to friends, family, significant others...and if you find yourself doing so maybe they shouldn't be in your life any longer. You should never have to be afraid of asking a question or compromise who you are.

There are some things that make relationships of all sorts irreparable. For everyone it's different. I feel you need to decide if you're in one that can be repaired, one that's worth repairing or one that needs a rest for awhile. In this life, most of us won't be thinking about the homes we owned, the shoes we bought or the clothes we wore we'll be thinking about the times we laughed, the friends and lovers we held on to tightly and the ones we let fall to ruins and I truly believe when we take our last breath we want to believe we made the right choices.